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SUMMARY:Facing Rejection
LOCATION:Visible Coffee Roasters - Madison
DESCRIPTION:Saved in Palaner as: saved\n\nPalaner match: 22% · why: lots of
  people going\n\nNote 3 changes compared to previous events:\n\n1. New Ven
 ue - Visible Coffee Roosters on Madison (not Ada's).\n2. Start at 7pm (not
  6:30).\n3. $5 - $10 suggested donation to help cover venue rental.\n\nRej
 ection sucks. Let's get better with it.\n\nIf you start talking to people 
 you're interested in\, you will inevitably run into some that aren't inter
 ested in you. How painful\, humiliating or confrontational that moment bec
 omes depends partly on their mood and predisposition\, but mostly on how w
 ell you handle it.\n\nWhen you handle it poorly\, rejection feels more pai
 nful\, threatening and long-lasting than it has to be.\n\nAt my worst\, I 
 spent months avoiding social interactions. If trying to talk to people onl
 y bothered them and hurt me\, it was kinder and less reckless to stay out 
 of the way. I still wanted to connect\, but saw no way to do so.\n\nEventu
 ally I got out of it\, but trying to connect still felt like a minefield. 
 I didn't know what I was doing wrong\, but I was determined to figure it o
 ut and share my notes. This workshop is based on my notes so far\, but the
 y are definitely still a work in progress.\n\nThis workshop is not about\n
 \n~~A fool proof way to never get rejected.~~\n~~Convert a no into a yes.~
 ~\n~~"Shifting your mindset" so rejection just doesn't bother you anymore.
 ~~\n\nThis workshop is about\n\nHow to defuse a rejection before it become
 s a problem.\nHow to stop reinforcing the feeling that "I'm the problem".\
 nHow and where to rack up small social wins to take the pressure off needi
 ng any single interaction to be "successful".\n\nThe core clarification ab
 out rejection is this:\n\nOnce they've decided they don't want to interact
  with you\, all further actions from their end are aimed at getting you to
  leave. The longer it takes you to leave and the more you try to engage pa
 st this point\, the more annoyed\, frustrated\, and adversarial their posi
 tion becomes.\n\nIn this workshop you will get to experiment with:\n\nHow 
 to notice when you've reached that point so you can leave cleanly.\nStayin
 g in the interaction long enough to give it a chance to connect instead of
  prematurely self-rejecting.\n\nIf you're able to do 1 you'll be able to d
 o 2 without it coming off as pressuring or intrusive.
URL:https://www.meetup.com/decent-social-skills/events/315602362/
CATEGORIES:palaner,saved
STATUS:TENTATIVE
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